In the “The
Secret Wardrobe” (a heterosexual crossdressing group which I moderate), a
recent post by one of our wives expressed a concern that her husband wearing a
wig was a MAJOR obstacle for her as well as for many other wives, girlfriends, etc,
who were otherwise reasonably comfortable with their significant other’s
crossdressing. It became apparent that this seemed to be true for quite a few of
these ladies and the message posted generated several replies. After thinking
about this for a while I posted the following reply:
It's very
true that a wig will completely change someone's overall look. That's one thing
that many women may not realize about THEMSELVES when they change hair colors or
hair styles. Although it's not usually a negative change, it's sometimes a
DRASTIC one. Oddly enough the person who has made the change doesn't feel any
different internally other than being happier with the way perceive themselves
to look and the way the new style actually feels. But (depending upon how
different the new style is compared to their previous one) it usually IS
a totally different look than they've had before and this is usually the way
others see it.
This is
exactly the same thing that happens when a CD puts on a wig since that's the ONE
article that can make the most abrupt change in appearance. And even though
there is no change in the person wearing the wig, the APPEARANCE is drastically
different to others. This can also be true for other articles - especially bras
- since the wife/girlfriend isn't accusttomed to seeing what appears to be
breasts on her man.
It takes a
very special woman to accept her CD wearing wigs, bras, and makeup. These
special GGs have to have the ability to realize that what's underneath all the
feminine trappings is STILL their man - nothing less, nothing more - and a
special tip of the hat (or courtesy if appropriate) to those of you GGs who have
learned and applied this bit of knowledge.
After a
little more thinking about this, it occurred to me that there are other aspects
of crossdressing which can have similar effects, those being the wearing of
makeup and bras. In combination, the wearing of these items are capable of
making the MOST drastic changes in one’s appearance and therefore can have
more of an impact on a spouse than anything in the form of clothing. When
you think about it, a person’s face it almost always the first thing others
notice about someone else so it’s only reasonable that changes in that
face are subject to being where most of the attention is focused. Since both the
hair style as well as makeup are well capable of making marked changes in this
area it stands to reason that there is a possibility that the observer may
temporarily ‘lose sight’ of the real person underneath it all. They’re the
same person they’ve always been, it’s just that they look
differently.
If you are reading this, and you’re one of the women who has reservations about your crossdresser wearing the “full regalia”, just think about it – he’s still the same man whether he’s wearing a pair of greasy overalls or a glamorous gown with all the trimmings. What’s left when you take it all off is the same thing that was there before, and the same thing that will be there the next time.
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