Standards...
everybody has some form of them and I am no exception and neither should you be.
As CDs we have an especially important need to set standards for ourselves that
will result in creating a positive impact on others with whom we may come into
contact, either from a personal standpoint or simply through our web sites and
emails. They need to know that we are NOT, contrary to the belief of many, a
bunch of weird people when, in reality, some of the best people I am acquainted
with are CDs. I've seen a lot of CD's web sites. Some of them are well planned
and maintained while others are nothing more than 'place holders' on a web
server where the enthusiastic CD was PLANNING to build a web site. I've see a
lot of the t-girls' sites who do take all the time and effort to publish these
sites too, some 'naughty', some nice, and that's what we need to talk about on
this page.
Lingerie
and all the other provocative garments available to whoever wants and can afford
them are a lot of fun to wear, I'd be the first one to admit that. And the
majority of it is most often necessary (bras, girdles, etc.), feels fantastic,
and goes a long way in helping to enhance one's feminine image both mentally as
well as physically. There's nothing wrong with that. All these items have their
places which is usually UNDERNEATH a fashionable dress, blouse, or pair of
slacks.
Everyone
has his or her own ideas as to what looks and feels feminine. Unfortunately
while dressing in a provocative style can be a great deal of fun for the CD, it
can also be a detriment in our attempts to be accepted by the public. You may be
one of the few who has all the qualities necessary to mix with the public while
dressed and never be 'read' (recognized as a male in feminine attire). Even if
this is true and you are dressed like a hooker on the prowl, the public will
still disapprove of you simply because the image you project is one that is
frowned upon by society. In addition, if you are recognized as a crossdresser
while questionably dressed things get even more complicated and the opinions of
those who recognize you as such will likely be negative and you've scored
another point against crossdressers in our quest to be accepted by the public.
Most
surveys I've seen indicate that about 90% of all crossdressers are totally
heterosexual and the vast majority of these are happily married and have
families. Similar surveys show that crossdressers, as a general rule, are
somewhat more intelligent, tenderhearted,
secure, many hold higher paying
jobs, are more likely to be faithful to their wives, and are generally more well
adjusted than most of the non-crossdressing public. What does this mean? Well,
for starters it means that the average crossdresser is actually more of an ASSET
to the community as opposed to being a 'threat' to society.
This is exactly why we should try to present ourselves as dignified,
classy LADIES rather than leave the impression that we're doing all we can to
get ourselves on the Jerry Springer Show!
My
personal tastes in outward appearance goes something like this:
Dresses.
Stylish worn below the knee. In my case these, as well as blouses, must be
long-sleeved to cover arm hair since I am not able to shave anywhere other
than my facial hair at the current time.
Shoes.
Pumps or heels appropriate to whatever clothes are being worn, with a heel
height around 2 or 3 inches.
Stockings.
Opaque stockings or panty hose (due to leg hair)
Hair.
Shoulder length, or slightly longer, "fluffy" wig. Very dark brown
is closer to my natural color, but I also have a 'dishwater' blond that I
have been told looks really good on me.
Make
up. I have a tendency to overdo it here, particularly around the eyes so
I have to watch myself closely. You can get away with heavier makeup at
night more so than in the daytime. For eyes I prefer black mascara, 'earthy'
shades of shadow, and dark brown or black liner. For lipstick I like a
really red shade and sometimes more of a maroon color. Foundation, powder,
and blush according to skin color and brand.
Nails.
I like the long, glamour type rounded at the tips and polished in a color to
closely match whatever shade of lipstick I'm wearing. Of course these are
acrylic and I have recently found that if you use Contact cement to apply
them they will stay in place, but are much easier to remove when the time
comes to take them off. An added bonus is that this method will not damage
your natural nails when you remove the acrylics.
Jewelry.
Nice lady's watch, bracelet, 'dangly' earrings, and usually a string of
pearls (simulated, of course), or a stylish necklace. I probably should get
a couple of rings, but I haven't done so yet.
Bra.
A 'C' or 'D' cup is proportionate with my height and weight.
Girdle/corset.
I have a very inexpensive girdle which helps my shape just a little. I plan
to get a good corset sometime in the future.
Your
personal attributes may enable you to be able to wear a nice pair of shorts,
sleeveless tops, shorter skirts or dresses, the list goes on and on. If so, I'm
glad that you are able to do so. Please keep in mind when you select what you
are going to be seen in that it will be a direct reflection on your character.
In addition, even if you are recognized as a crossdresser if you are
dressed neatly and conservatively you can still be viewed favorably simply
because you look like a conservative LADY.
OK,
with all of this said, my standards are fairly simple - basically to project the
appearance of what I can only describe as a 'classy' lady. Other terms which
come to mind when I describe what appeals to me are classic, elegant, refined,
proper, distinguished, demure, dignified, etc. Also, to be sure that we
understand each other, as previously stated I am totally heterosexual, married,
don't go in for any of the "kinky" stuff, and even though she is not
supportive at the current time, I'm still very much in love with my wife. If you
subscribe to similar standards then we have a lot in common and I'd love to get
an email from you.
