From
that time until the present I have had to keep my dressing a secret and very
carefully select the times and locations where I can dress without the
possibility of being discovered by my wife. I really HATE having to do that!
Luckily, my job has evolved to a level where I usually can make several
out-of-town business trips each year and this affords me the opportunity to
"get out" for a while. As a matter of fact it is about the ONLY outlet
I have at the current time. Since I'm not the nightclub type and I'm
totally heterosexual my 'outings' are thus far limited to driving around
enfemme and buying snacks and drinks from outdoor vending machines while I'm
out. If I can find a safe, well lighted location with the right kind of stores
who have window displays I occasionally get out and "window shop"
after they are all closed for the night.
Let
me repeat a couple of things (you'll find this same thing duplicated on other
pages of this site) from that last sentence just to make them clear:
(1)
I'm 100% heterosexual and have absolutely no intentions of being anything else
(2)
I've always been faithful to my wife and have no intention of spoiling a perfect
record
(3)
I'm not the nightclub type. There - enough said.
March
20, 2000
On
March 18, 2000, as I was making a quick trip down to the local 7 - 11 store, I
was thinking (as usual) about my wife and when to try to tell her about my
'hobby' and open up a line of conversation about it with her. It had taken me
over three years to gather material that I had determined was necessary and
honest to put a package of documentation together that I had hopes that would
cover the subject from just about any angle and viewpoint. I had prayed about it
and asked God to send me a sign when the time was right to open this subject up.
Before I managed to get back home the sign I had asked for had been revealed to
me not just once, but twice in the same instant. I won't go into details as to
what it was that I had asked for, but suffice it to say that it was something
that was NOT a common, everyday occurrence. I could feel my stomach preparing to
turn flip-flops and I got that weak-knee feeling like you get when something
scares the living daylights out of you, but I knew the time had arrived and I
knew that this exact time had not been chosen by me but by Someone who was much
wiser than I was and Whose judgment in the decision was beyond question. So when
I got home I got the package out of its 'hiding place' and made mental
preparations in an attempt to be ready for whatever was about to happen.
ME:
"Have you had a chance to read any more of the material I gave you last
week?"
HER: "Yes."
ME: "Well, what did you think about it?"
(Another pause, then in a sort of offensive tone:)
HER: "Well, according to some of what I read, some of these people want to
go all the way to the point of wearing wigs and makeup and everything. And then
they want to go out in public dressed like that. I don't know who they think
they're going to fool - I can spot a guy in a dress from a mile away with one
eye closed."
ME: "Yes, they do. There are hundreds of support groups where just such
people get together on a regular schedule specifically for just that purpose.
And contrary to what you might think, the majority of cross dressers don't want
to be dressed like hookers and most are not lingerie queens either. Personally,
I like the classy, elegant, or refined look."
That's
about where the conversation ended. I was disappointed that it had not gotten
down to a personal level and been more detailed about OUR current status and
situation rather than just talking in generalities. As I said, for some reason
it seems more difficult to re-open the subject after it has been brought out to
begin with.
UPDATE:
October, 9, 2000
Well, it finally happened. On Tuesday, September 26, 2000, I had lunch with Abby
Walker from Atlanta. We met at a local restaurant and had lunch together.
Contrary to the way I had imagined it, I was calm and collected. Abby is one of
the nicest persons you'd ever want to meet and I thoroughly enjoyed our brief
visit.
And then on Saturday, September 30, 2000, Renae (from North Alabama) and I met at a mutually agreed upon McDonalds and spent over two and a half hours getting to know each other. We have been exchanging email for 6 or 8 months now and we both have been doing all we could to try to get together and now it has finally happened. She is a really sweet and sincere person and we talked about fashions, makeup, deportment, mannerisms, and just about everything that a couple of 'sisters' would have the desire to talk about.
All too soon these meetings had to end and I really regretted it, but I felt that I had reached another milestone along my journey. These two meetings were both endrab and that leads me to set another 'goal' for myself and that is to meet another 'sister' with both of us dressed. This meeting will be a little more difficult than the last and will most certainly require more time and effort.
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